tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14473417.post5798474733923758439..comments2024-03-15T01:34:45.154-07:00Comments on Chiron: Sidestepping the MonkeyRoryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08483616030072739190noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14473417.post-53439862337406886122011-03-23T03:21:08.334-07:002011-03-23T03:21:08.334-07:00Okay. Even more interesting. You were a sergeant? ...Okay. Even more interesting. You were a sergeant? Your approach here is thoughtful, and very rational. That's... not entirely what I have learned to expect from the military.Flintharthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17456024642528783549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14473417.post-500428471196930282011-03-10T13:57:40.710-08:002011-03-10T13:57:40.710-08:00This is very good advice. It very much applies to ...This is very good advice. It very much applies to me being a martial arts instructor. Love your work btw, particularly Meditations on Violence. Really eye-opening stuff!Lori O'Connell (West Coast Jiu-jitsu)http://www.westcoastjj.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14473417.post-83417509144202782052011-03-10T01:02:00.289-08:002011-03-10T01:02:00.289-08:00@Quint
Yes... there is always a flip side. life is...@Quint<br />Yes... there is always a flip side. life is in the shades of grey! 8')<br />JwThe European Historical Combat Guildhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02425115205496881300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14473417.post-43281187821307581582011-03-09T11:19:32.373-08:002011-03-09T11:19:32.373-08:00Very cool stuff. Not a lot to add that hasn't ...Very cool stuff. Not a lot to add that hasn't already been said.Jakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11379685641338041168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14473417.post-20132027586380116782011-03-09T01:25:20.310-08:002011-03-09T01:25:20.310-08:00Quint Oga-Baldwin -
:-)
JoshQuint Oga-Baldwin - <br /><br />:-)<br /><br />JoshJosh Kruschkehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09288700371539530398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14473417.post-30494370245270701542011-03-09T01:21:46.025-08:002011-03-09T01:21:46.025-08:00Thanks Rory.
This is at the heart of a personal d...Thanks Rory.<br /><br />This is at the heart of a personal dilemma of my own; to blog or not to blog.<br />I started my own blog as a way to test and strengthen my belief system. To look for the flaws and blind spots.<br /><br />As, I didn't find it on my own blog I've been trolling around on the blogosphier making a nuisance of myself, and I fear I haven't been to delicate about stating my opinion looking to be challenged.<br /><br />I've come to realize that I need to be more circumspect of peoples stated goals and what they really want.<br /><br />I don't know if your daughter or son realize what a blessing it is to have someone help them learn this, with out learning it the hard way.<br /><br />Intellectually I've know this for quit a while, but I still not sure if the white lie is a good thing or just the easy thing. It's just so damn not the way my brain works.<br /><br />I want to say to your daughter and son never change. It's not your job to help people deluded them self or build up their self-image, but that's your and their decision.<br /><br />Still not sure,<br />JoshJosh Kruschkehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09288700371539530398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14473417.post-36485464215569967882011-03-09T01:11:44.168-08:002011-03-09T01:11:44.168-08:00"There are also those people who want "c..."There are also those people who want "critisism" but what they actualy want is you to say "thats fantastic. Don't change a thing""<br /><br />The flip side of this is that most people, when you ask for honest criticism and weak points, most people give you positive affirmation instead.Quint Oga-Baldwinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02160229610616607473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14473417.post-87662666779711511132011-03-08T17:31:28.988-08:002011-03-08T17:31:28.988-08:00I really liked this post.
You see stuff like thi...I really liked this post. <br /><br />You see stuff like this all the time - a seemly minor argument quickly expands and snowballs.<br /><br />Once when I made a positive statement about myself, it was pointed out to me that how could I know it was true, and that people weren't just saying nice things just to be nice. Good question...<br /><br />I've also learned a LONG time ago to keep my political views to myself. Not only is it conflict avoidance, but it maintains the ability to be social with co-workers, and more importantly it keeps me employed.JessicaLeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12154091007776542149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14473417.post-20105132840820096472011-03-08T08:09:24.633-08:002011-03-08T08:09:24.633-08:00Good point. Of course, sometimes it is an attack, ...Good point. Of course, sometimes it is an attack, and the question becomes how to tell when it is or not. <br /><br />Some folks are very good at making an attack look like it isn't -- you have pointed it out consistently that such is part and parcel of the thug mindset. <br /><br />Even in social situations, something that is deliberately meant to be hurtful will often be hastily amended: "Hey, I was only joking!"<br /><br />I've been on both sides of this one -- heard verbal attacks when none were intended, been accused of them when I hadn't offered them. <br /><br />As writers, we strive for clarity, but as every writer learns pretty quickly, no matter how clear you think you have been, there are always folks who won't get it. And good intentions aren't always enough ...Steve Perryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12079658447270792228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14473417.post-88245007279379050182011-03-08T07:39:59.775-08:002011-03-08T07:39:59.775-08:00Sgt Miller, thanks!Sgt Miller, thanks!Charles Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13812618556413423872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14473417.post-47289953430349373342011-03-08T05:49:00.308-08:002011-03-08T05:49:00.308-08:00My wife and I have come to realize something very ...My wife and I have come to realize something very much like this, and it's key to keeping our disagreements from turning into full fledged, screaming fights. We both have tempers, although I think mine is worse. But when we start disagreeing about something seriously, we've both figured out how to take a sort of mental step back and sideways and remember that we don't want to hurt each other. That makes all the difference.<br /><br />We usually end up starting to have the fight because I've failed at that. I think of it as letting my inner five year old out, but reading this, I think that's the same thing as your chimp. <br /><br />FWIW, I'm not sure your answer is all that abnormal either. But we have a saying in my house - "Normal is a washing machine setting."Kathryn Scannellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00717480772265142293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14473417.post-60092156066688541422011-03-08T05:29:23.991-08:002011-03-08T05:29:23.991-08:00My family is making me watch American Idol with th...My family is making me watch American Idol with them. Thats cool I like spending time with them when I can. On the Show Steven Tyler was arguing with Randy. Tyler said Randy I see your point but if I agreed with you we would both be wrong.Kaseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16392248937462950113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14473417.post-61668721756366324852011-03-08T01:08:51.490-08:002011-03-08T01:08:51.490-08:00Reminds me of the rhymn that one hears as a kid.
&...Reminds me of the rhymn that one hears as a kid.<br />"Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" <br />Its a shame most people forget it and what it means.<br /><br />There are also those people who want "critisism" but what they actualy want is you to say "thats fantastic. Don't change a thing"<br /><br />As a teacher I am disappointed by how many "adults" don't have a clue of how to learn.The European Historical Combat Guildhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02425115205496881300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14473417.post-11114406827066382752011-03-07T18:31:33.554-08:002011-03-07T18:31:33.554-08:00"Don't take anything personally" see..."Don't take anything personally" seems a critical lesson to teach our kids and practice ourselves (Just because don Miguel Ruiz put it in his book doesn't make it less useful).<br /><br />As I get older it seems foolish to take personally anything anybody says to me---good or bad---even when they clearly intend their words to be entirely personal and malicious. <br /><br />And there is less and less to get steamed about. <br /><br />Sure I listen to feedback so I can go along with social agreements to a point and hear how others perceive me. <br /><br />I'll propose that not taking things personally is a core Conflict Communications skill.<br /><br />You hear it coming and become more still as the voices get louder. <br /><br />don Miguel Ruiz inspired CC !!!!<br /><br />Gotta love your daughter.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13488651885429977320noreply@blogger.com