tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14473417.post679965197291713801..comments2024-03-28T03:31:42.278-07:00Comments on Chiron: SpecimenRoryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08483616030072739190noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14473417.post-68307834928015074482017-03-09T00:34:49.912-08:002017-03-09T00:34:49.912-08:00Been thinking on this not least because living in ...Been thinking on this not least because living in a city where people apologise before they bump you or push ahead etc and working with people who seem to use sorry to fill a space in speech...<br />It seems the word sorry.. has taken the place of phrase ls like please excuse me... I beg your pardon... my appologies... not only the word sorry is shorter but it shifts things... from the other persons decision to respond or accept ... to the wrongdoers... sorrow being enough.. sorry.. in stead of in beg your pardon... one seems part of being responsible to a group.. the newer is about the self.. I can do wrong as long as I am sorry afterward... as oposed previously if I did wrong I accepted that others had to allow me to move on.<br />Anyway The European Historical Combat Guildhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02425115205496881300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14473417.post-27364144433408823122017-03-02T13:47:58.140-08:002017-03-02T13:47:58.140-08:00Sudden realization: Oh, every time a guy says, &qu...Sudden realization: Oh, every time a guy says, "I hope I'm not making this awkward", he fully intends to put me in what he thinks is an awkward position. Presumably one in which I have to turn him down... (90% of the time without actually going on to make an identifiable pass.)<br /><br />I don't know how I got to this age not realizing that. I don't really know what I thought they thought they were doing. Maybe deliberately expressing vulnerability? Or possibly just saying the first thing that popped into their heads. But it is such a common phrasing that it is obviously part of a social script that I failed to learn.Kasumihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03590485382694783357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14473417.post-48172761997649665762017-02-27T09:28:24.473-08:002017-02-27T09:28:24.473-08:00PAst behaviours as indicators.
Willingness or abi...PAst behaviours as indicators. <br />Willingness or ability to change the behaviour in the future once they have been called out on it?<br /><br />In the moment or time it is happening does it matter of course?The European Historical Combat Guildhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02425115205496881300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14473417.post-53808425698298315952017-02-26T19:58:15.265-08:002017-02-26T19:58:15.265-08:00So, and I have no answer for this— when an act is ...So, and I have no answer for this— when an act is clearly deliberate, is there any way to tell if the perp was:<br /><br />truly unconscious : (they should be surprised if you call them on it, didn't know\weren't aware)<br /><br />pretending to himself it was unconscious : (they should be ashamed, knew it was wrong, was pretending it wasn't)<br /><br /><b>or deliberately using the impression as a way to manipulate others (very conscious.)</b> : (they should be guilty, knew it was wrong and were actively trying to get away with it)Master Planhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14699687565908188376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14473417.post-15042929041556080842017-02-25T10:32:49.483-08:002017-02-25T10:32:49.483-08:00I'm reminded of the saying...
Don't say so...I'm reminded of the saying...<br />Don't say sorry... don't do it again....The European Historical Combat Guildhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02425115205496881300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14473417.post-82307001821209046502017-02-25T06:48:24.573-08:002017-02-25T06:48:24.573-08:00The funniest part of writing about creeps was gett...The funniest part of writing about creeps was getting a deluge of apologies from people who are absolutely, categorically not creeps, oh no, but somehow are aware that they did something creepy but did it anyway because of reasons and I might have interpreted it as them being creeps and that would be awful and please don't write about me my wife reads your blog...God's Bastardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07919922410525554980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14473417.post-54406159106223198022017-02-25T00:33:21.960-08:002017-02-25T00:33:21.960-08:00Encounter this problem on a regular basis teaching...Encounter this problem on a regular basis teaching. <br />On a lover level over here people with throw out a sorry just before they bump someone on the bus or tube in line..<br />The European Historical Combat Guildhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02425115205496881300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14473417.post-83610616878569432582017-02-24T05:48:20.756-08:002017-02-24T05:48:20.756-08:00"Specimen: That’s not the way I thought this ..."Specimen: That’s not the way I thought this conversation would go."<br /><br />They hate it when you don't follow the social script expected of you.Waynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09442291413404618813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14473417.post-27920757103151577002017-02-24T02:25:36.842-08:002017-02-24T02:25:36.842-08:00On the bright side. Research is showing that we ar...On the bright side. Research is showing that we are never the same person.<br /><br />https://medicalxpress.com/news/2017-02-term-personality-people-age.html<br /><br />And if we change, the change can be controlled, and directed.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11603237674122942701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14473417.post-88058322321146763822017-02-23T12:18:30.894-08:002017-02-23T12:18:30.894-08:00Thanks - that was very illuminating. I recognized ...Thanks - that was very illuminating. I recognized some people I've encountered, and a man I once called a friend is very much this person (and uses his position as an instructor to groom victims). Several of us have begun calling him out to the community we're in. I'm working on making sure my school culture (recreational martial arts, not self-defense) sees and stops this kind of behavior.Sean Hayeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12585393717291867633noreply@blogger.com