Imagine a square. In that square is everything there is to know about you.
Imagine a horizontal bar in that square. Above the bar are the things you know about yourself. below that bar are the things you don't know about yourself. There are a million things you don't know about yourself. Some are obvious: how you will act under pressure you have never experienced; things you have never learned to see. Some bring up some deep denial: all the things you think are cool but annoy others; all the times you are playing to an imaginary audience as you interact in life.
Imagine a vertical line in the square. All the things on the left are the things that others know about you. All the things on the right of the line are the things that they do not know. You deeper dreams and fantasies and history and...
It is important to realize that others know things about you that you do not. Who you think we see and who we actually see are not the same and often the person on the outside sees more accurately. the one on the outside doesn't see the voices in our heads making excuses and creating false explanations and rationalizations. They just see what we do.
So the window divides into four quarters, the relative size of each section different for each person:
The things that only we know about ourselves.
The things that everyone knows.
The things that others know and we do not.
The things that no one knows.
On that level, the quest in life is the same: to open the window and see as much about ourselves as possible. We can't see our own blindspots and it is only through friends (or sometimes enemies) that tell us what they see that we get anywhere on our quest.
On that level, the quest in life is the same: to open the window and see as much about ourselves as possible. We can't see our own blindspots and it is only through friends (or sometimes enemies) that tell us what they see that we get anywhere on our quest.
6 comments:
I aspire to the courage to ask my friends what they know about me.
Perspective, Exploring & Testing.
Knowledge, Ideals and Meaning.
Our job everyday comes down to what we make of and act upon our own perceived reality, versus the truths of the physical world our little trapped brains have been immersed in.
Its good to think about all this relative to a learning path.
Rory you get at the really good stuff...
-Billy G.
... Friends, enemies and teachers ...
Interesting, never heard of this particular analogy in my intro psychology course [about a hundred years ago and I was most likely not paying the attention to it I should have :-)]. Thanks, this provides a nice way to talk of this to others who follow my mindless meanderings provided your ok with that.
I am trying to promote more academics along with this type of thing for me and those I have contact with in the fundamental/basic stages vs. nothing, etc., so appreciate the new view.
Interesting. Thanks, Rory -- a BA in Psych, and this was never mentioned. (That's what I get for sharing alumnus status with Dr. Phil, though.)
The Johari Window was a staple at the USAF Squadron Officers School. It is as valid today as it was in 1976(not 1876)when I first learned of it.
Go Air Force; aim high!
Older guy
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