I want you to do a thought
experiment. Relax, take a deep
breath, and answer a few questions.
First, imagine that no one is going to help you and your children are in
danger of starving. What would you
be willing to do?
Would you steal food?
Would you rob (use violence or the
threat of violence to steal) for food or money for food?
Would you kill?
These are the first questions, the
easy ones. To save your children,
what would you be willing to do?
What lines would you cross?
I use ‘to save your children’ in the question because most people imagine
their own starvation as something noble or heroic. They imagine they could ‘take it’ and make sacrifices and
stick to a moral code but can’t really imagine what the changing blood sugar,
fear and desperation would do to their minds. So we stick with children for this little thought
experiment.
Ready for the next series of
questions?
Would you prostitute yourself? Would you prostitute you children to
feed them? Prostitute just one of
the children to feed the others?
Or maybe sell one and pretend you did not know why the child was wanted?
I don’t know why people hesitate
more on these questions than on the question of killing, but they do. Murder is officially more evil than
prostitution, right? Maybe, in
this thought experiment, murder for food is a little more abstract and easier
to imagine in soft focus. Maybe.
More questions. Whatever strategy you chose to feed
your children, you are an adaptable human being. Would you eventually become okay with your decision? Even self-righteous about it? You are the one killing, stealing or
pimping… would you really blame yourself for that? Or find someone else to blame for driving you to it?
Would you eventually tell yourself
that what you are doing is noble and right? That your victims are the bad guys? If it turned out to be successful and you moved from the edge
of starvation to affluence, would you quit doing the crimes? Or would it have become a way of life? And would you teach your children to
follow in your footsteps?
Play with those thoughts for a
moment.
We live in an unbelievably affluent
society. Our modern response to
the possibility of hunger, much less starvation, doesn’t involve getting a
spear or laying traps, but going to a government office and filing
paperwork. No one seems to see anything
odd about that.
It is so easy to forget, when you
have never personally been hungrier than you wanted to be (fasting is a
completely different experience than starving) that the possibility of children
starving has been the norm for much of human history. It is still the norm in many places in the world.
Yet we are surprised when people
act from this world-view. We get
self-righteous and indignant. That
may be a justified attitude, but it is not useful.
In modern times, this threat isn’t
about food. That little thought
experiment we just did? That
desperation that drives you to do things you know are wrong? Things that become less wrong the
longer you do them until you feel fully justified and righteous? That is where addicts live and it drives
a huge amount of the crime in this country.
This has profound implications for
avoiding and de-escalating violence stemming from this level. It is much different from the social
conflict we are used to. Everything
you know about protecting people’s feelings or deferring to status or showing
respect is irrelevant here. The
threat wants stuff. Stuff that he
can sell to feed his addiction. It
is not about his feelings or his past or his inner child. It is about his need.
The only things that will work on
the threat are the things that would work on you if your children were
starving. The thought experiment
will help you empathize with the threat’s state of mind and help you avoid the
traps.
What would you do if your children
were starving? How far would you go? How far will the threat go?
How would you set up your crimes?
Would you prefer to burglarize an
empty house? Threaten in
privacy? Use overwhelming force
from ambush or invade a home and catch the victim(s) off guard?
The threat will do the same thing
and for the same reasons. Almost
every incident of conflict in your life has been social, and almost all of the
social incidents had one thing in common: an audience.
When someone switches to predatory
violence, an audience magically transforms into witnesses. This is the primary clue: IF THERE ARE
NO WITNESSES PREPARE FOR PREDATORY VIOLENCE.
It’s not a switch that most make
quickly or easily. No matter how
ineptly, incipient criminals have been socialized to some extent. They had a parent or parents. The attended at least some school. Their first time using or threatening
to use violence, they are amateurs.
They are nervous and it shows.
Instead of using the weapon for either immediate violence or to take
control, they treat it like an amulet, like a cross to keep away vampires. The best I can describe it is that like
most inexperienced citizens they don’t look like they are using a gun so much
as hiding behind one.
In the first crimes, the threat is
often hesitant to use force.
Sometimes the victim reads that and attempts to use social skills to end
the situation. When you see
someone who is hesitant and fearful trying to exert power, what are the social
strategies? Often to intimidate or
punk him out. You see the weakness, the line where he should break and you push it: “You don’t have
the guts to pull the trigger!”
But this isn’t social. Social is two monkeys vying for
status. An inexperienced predator
is trying to teach himself to stop acting like a monkey and start acting like a
leopard. What would a leopard
do? Oh, yeah. Kill the stupid monkey.
There is a common pattern of a new
criminal hesitating until he starts to lose control and then using massive
force to regain control. His first
extreme violent crime.
As the threat becomes more
experienced, there are some changes.
One is what I call ‘othering’.
We can use more force on things different than ourselves. We can squash bugs, shoot deer, butcher
livestock…but we fight people. The
more we can convince ourselves that someone is not like us, the more force we
can use, the faster we can use it and the less psychological damage is
associated with it.
Othering is a skill, and as a
criminal becomes more experienced he becomes better at it. He can use force, even extreme force,
without hesitation. The humanity
of his victims gradually ceases to be an element restricting his actions.
What does restrict his actions
becomes a very cold risk-reward analysis.
What will he get and what risks will he run?
Violence, especially extreme
violence, draws a lot of attention and carries potentially long sentences. The more blood, the greater chance of
being caught. Experienced
criminals think in these terms. Pressing close, making a citizen nervous so
that the citizen offers some cash is zero risk, at most a city ordinance
violation for the hard-to-prove “aggressive panhandling.”
This implies three strategies for
making you an unlikely victim:
1.
Lower the potential rewards of the risk/rewards equation. This is not as effective as you might
think. There is no element of
social justice to the equation, no morality of ‘robbing the rich.’ Many criminals steal from people poorer
than themselves, because no matter who they steal from, the robber will have
more, and that is the goal. A
local contact (this is two years out of date) said that a heavy heroin habit in my
city runs $400 dollars a day.
Stealing items other than cash, he can rarely get more than 10% of the
value… so an addict may have to steal $4000 worth of goods every day. That’s volume and under the press of
withdrawals, most threats can’t afford to be picky. This is a one-way street, by the way. You can’t lower the potential rewards
enough to make you completely safe, but you can raise the rewards enough to
influence the criminal to take greater risks. See below.
2.
Raise the risk.
Every self-defense instructor’s advice to walk with confidence and
express self-value fits right here.
The threat may feel confidant he could take anyone, but why artificially
raise the risk? Attack the
easy. Same as wolves and injured
caribou. Staying in crowds. Attracting witnesses. Dialing 911 on your cell. Letting it be known that you are
armed…and this is a tricky one, because a gun is a very valuable thing. Admitting you are carrying one MAY make
someone choose another victim… or it may make him take extra precautions and
use more violence faster to get your weapon.
3.
Shake his confidence in the equation. When a threat approaches, he expects
certain behavior-- maybe a scared glancing around or nervous fumbling. Maybe pleading. A lot of victims just become
passive. Someone who seems too
calm makes the threat wonder if he has missed something. The possibility of a weapon is often
more effective than the presence of a weapon. A nod or wave in a random direction may make the think
threat he has missed allies.
If you understand the type of
threat, you can adapt your tactics and better avoid the situation. If you cannot avoid the situation, you
can choose tactics at the appropriate level of force and, possibly more important,
articulate you decisions.
Yes, supermarkets , not family run shops or small business people etc "You wouldn't cosh your barber, you're hungry all the same" (The Clash)
ReplyDeleteYes, my employer.
No, I wouldn't kill.
Yes, I've thought about it when broke.
No, wouldn't prostitute children under any circumstances.
If I was successful at crime I would quit. This is what happens anyway isn't it? Criminals buy into legitimate businesses, (less risk.)
Panhandlers getting too close - I usually back up, get my hands out reasonably in a "fence" stance .If they insist on trying to crowd me I ask them if that's what they're doing - then either they can say yes or no. Every time (so far) someone has done an intimidating faster aggressive approach, believe it or don't :-), I've managed to get into normal step-and-drag (kick)boxing footwork, and without then having to trade blows. Before training in martial arts I was hit a few times by normal type street thugs, the last time after starting karate turned my head, didn't even do the rising block but received the blow aimed for my face on the skull :D Since then no fights, it does make me feel a bit like a Nun in a brothel though ;-)
Nice clean questions, fun for late night drunk dorm room conversation. It all begs the question, though, because mostly they don't think about it at all. The choices they make and the actions they take are all the reflection we have of their ethics.
ReplyDeleteNor do I think everyone can predict their answers with a reasonable degree of certainty. The emotional weight of your response in the face of the immediate crisis is hard to predict.
I had a friend once whose identity and reality were at odds. He was a badass and a legend in his own mind, but in reality, he was a gear queer. He collected knives and firearms almost obsessively, but never really trained with them.
ReplyDeleteThe only incident that I know he was involved in involved a lot of drinking and an argument with one of his close friends. In the heat of it, he pulled a knife, expecting the situation to fizzle out. Instead, his friend (who knew him well) just hit him in the head. He waved the knife some more and got punched a few more times in the head for it. Eventually, he lost a fight badly because he had a knife in his hand that he really didn't want to injure anyone with, and couldn't defend himself from his buddy, who was about 6 inches shorter than him.
The phrase "they treat it [a weapon] like an amulet, like a cross to keep away vampires" made me think of this. I'm going to use that turn of phrase.
(BTW, 15 years after the knife incident, he killed himself. I don't know everything that went on in his life, but I know of at least 3 things that, like the knife incident, showed him that reality didn't match the identity he'd concocted for himself. Some of the most blindly enraged people I've seen have been because their identity came crashing down around them.)
-Louie
I have really been enjoying the inside look to violence on your last few posts. ***Erase this part: I want to know if you will consider us swapping guest posts with each other. Check out my content on The Clever Survivalist Blog Survival Guide and get back to me.
ReplyDeleteA thought as to a possible reason people might hesitate more on the prostitution question than on murder: rephrased it's are you willing to harm out tribe versus are you willing to sacrifice part of the in tribe for the rest
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