That runs dead on into a 'bell curve' image of what violence is like and a matching 'bell curve' image of what you need to prevail. Those ideas are terribly wrong- flat out wrong and potentially fatally incorrect.
Most people don't hang out in war zones or work in jails. Some take this to mean that my level of violence will be higher than theirs. True. My baseline will be higher. But my awareness of where I am and what I am doing, the tools and commo and teamwork are designed to match that level. I'm not worried about the stuff I'm prepared for. Like everyone else, if I get killed it will be by the stuff way off the baseline.
This applies to training hugely and it applies in both directions- fit martial athletes, the image that pops into our heads when we think of martial artists or self defense experts are the least likely to be victimized, least likely to need the skills they train... and when they are killed it is by something outside their baselines, trusting their kick-boxing skills until the gun they didn't see tears a hole through their innards.
Fit twenty year-olds don't need a lot of skill to be a handful in a fight. Give them the confidence to go in and permission to cut loose and they can do some damage. Pile skill and experience on top of that (and be careful that you don't unwittingly remove the permission to cut loose) and you have a very dangerous person. These are the people least likely to need self-defense skills.
The people who need them, the ones most likely to be victimized are the timid, the unathletic, the unaware... exactly the group least likely to seek out training.
"I'm good enough for what I'm likely to run into," he said, "I don't need to train for your environment."
It's not true and it is terrifyingly blind... yet it is true. He is likely to run into exactly nothing in his life. He is adequately prepared for that. But violence comes in something closer to a hockey stick distribution than a bell curve. It probably won't hit this kid. But if it does he will likely need skills and ferocity well beyond what I've needed.
There's an assumption in there- I give him enough credit to believe that he will walk away from the ones he can walk away from and that he won't go out of his way to create a violent situation. Most of the low level stuff, the Monkey Dance stuff takes two to play. So he's also prepared for that, for the stuff he could walk away from.
The result of false bell curves, naive beliefs:
- The people who most need the training are the least likely to seek it
- The people most likely to seek it, the athletes, are the ones most able to make a bad system work
- People train for things that don't happen or for the most avoidable
- They use an imagined rarity as an excuse to limit their own preparation
This shouldn't bother me. Most people train to bolster their fantasy life far more than they train for survival. I understand that.
One more- when someone says, "I don't let negative energy into my life, I don't have to worry about this stuff." They are using false reasoning. It will seem true more often than not because in this society and this time most people's lives will never be touched by extreme violence. It is one of those things that is safe to believe until it isn't. Then it becomes catastrophically untrue. Or the converse, "Thinking about violence causes violence." Not true, obviously, though experiencing violence will damn well make you think about it a lot. It is an excuse to stay in a mental comfort zone. Nothing more.
Complete aside. Kami's story is out!!!!